重頭來過 The Second Time Around
Siri Atma Singh Khalsa, M.D.
最後我還是面臨了履行我的職責與維持婚姻之間的抉擇,
我學到了一段關係無論有多好或多壞,
在離婚後建立一段新的關係,
我們對於活出並分享Yogi Bhajan的教導有同等的熱忱。
Yogi Bhajan曾經考驗我們,而那是很好的經驗。
我們共享的種種承諾建立起信任,不再熱衷於親密關係,
婚姻不是關於我擁有什麼或你擁有什麼,也不在於我是誰或你是誰。
婚姻是對自我及公眾聲明,我將服務另一個的靈魂直到無限,
MARRIAGE IS THE CARRIAGE THAT TAKES YOU TO GOD. This is what Yogi Bhajan taught me in 1979 and it is what I believe now. Trusting in God, I did not pursue a wife, but rather I consolidated my spiritual practice, prepared myself for marriage and let God take care of the rest. When I was married and found that my personal sadhana would lead to such rapid personal change that we would grow apart, I set my personal pace to match my spouse’s. Thus I verified that personal sacrifice always leads to spiritual growth.
Eventually I was forced to choose between performing my duty and preserving my marriage. Whichever choice I made the personal cost was going to be high. I chose what I felt was the highest good, but I lost a 20 year relationship, my children where forced through a divorce, and my dreams of a single cozy grandparents’ home was destroyed. Worse still, my trust in a partnership was destroyed. My distrust made constructing a new union difficult for my new partner, though constant love and nurturing eventually has healed this pain.
I learned that no matter how good or bad a relationship may be, there is no substitute for time spent together. This being said, relationships are a lot easier when you both not only love but also respect each other. With my new partner we have both merged deeper in four years than our 20year prior marriages afforded. Why? We both already knew how to serve and sacrifice, when to lead or follow. We both know how to heal and strengthen each other.
I learned that no matter how good or bad a relationship may be, there is no substitute for time spent together. This being said, relationships are a lot easier when you both not only love but also respect each other. With my new partner we have both merged deeper in four years than our 20year prior marriages afforded. Why? We both already knew how to serve and sacrifice, when to lead or follow. We both know how to heal and strengthen each other.
We both want to live and share Yogi Bhajan’s teachings with equal intensity. Our marriage has evolved around healing our wounds and enhancing our strengths. We are both good selfnurturers, but we prefer to nurture each other instead. It is more fun to pass your daytoday in giving rather than hassling and hustling. The Siri Singh Sahib’s teachings are selfapplied to grant us the power to serve others as well as each other and ourselves, just as we are.
Yogi Bhajan tested us both and that is nice. We know how to sacrifice and share and when to relax and play. We respect our strengths and our weakness. We spend our together time enjoying and expressing our unique identities not seeking satisfaction of our personal needs.
Our shared commitments built trust, bore intimacy, and then a merging of souls. I feel blessed that the Siri Singh Sahib taught me to commit, trust, and sacrifice. This allowed me to merge with him and it allows me now to merge with my wife, Nam Kaur. A successful marriage requires the same tools as the spiritual path and promises the same rewards, merger of one soul with another, Atma into Parmatma.
Marriage is not about what I have or what you have. It is not about what I am or what you are. Marriage is about what we can be by joining our polarity. When the goal of marriage is to obey the soul in purity and piety then union must occur, because there is only one Soul. If I merge into my soul or your soul or the highest Soul, it is all one Soul, one Creation. If I live for you and I serve your soul and I merge into your soul, I escape the pit of Spiritual Ego where I serve only my soul.
Marriage is the personal and public declaration that I will serve this other soul unto Infinity. We will sink or swim together. That is the real spiritual test of marriage. It is not our earthly success or failure that pleases God, but our ability to commit and sacrifice. Marriage is thus a practice ground for merging with all souls. We commit to merge with one soul and whatever it takes, that is the sacrifice we make. The secret is to constantly nurture the highest aspect of our sexual polarity, our partner, because it takes two wings to fly.
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