訓練我們的孩子（Training Our Children）

 

訓練我們的孩子

Training Our Children

摘錄自 Siri Singh Sahib（西里・辛格・薩希卜）的教導

「像聖者一樣坐著，這是第一課。」

1992 年 7 月 1 日

「……母親是創造性的能量。她必須在孩子做對與做錯的事情上，都對孩子提出挑戰。

這就是悲劇所在，沒有母親這樣做。母親必須在對與錯的事情上挑戰孩子：

『如果你是對的，為什麼你是對的？』

『如果你是錯的，為什麼你是錯的？』

而父親則必須提供其他的選擇。

『如果你是對的，你能夠對到什麼程度？你又如何能夠避免錯誤？』

『如果你是錯的，你如何能夠擺脫錯誤，並成為正確的？』

如果父親不這樣做，他就是在殺害這個孩子。

如果母親不這樣做，她就會徹底把孩子變成一個無用之人。

沒有任何人一出生就是錯的。

那是父母的過錯。孩子只是那個過錯與失職所產生的副產品。」

1992 年 7 月 2 日

「……如果我們讓孩子做自己，並給予他們基本的靈性價值觀，與他們的靈性互動，提升並維護他們的靈性，給予他們信心；那就是他們所擁有的唯一正向的東西。

我們的孩子沒有一個會崩潰。

我的意思是，你餵孩子吃很多冰淇淋，然後你認為他或她不會長青春痘嗎？我不知道你是從哪裡學到這種想法的。你給他們所有那些情緒上的說教，然後你就只是依賴他們。

在一個孩子的生命中，最糟糕的事情，就是父母其中一方，或雙方，都依賴在孩子身上。孩子會以為整個世界都掌握在他的手掌之中。他開始用一生去尋求那樣的感覺；但他永遠得不到。他在餘生中都會感到痛苦。我們從第一天起就這樣做。這就是為什麼我說，如果我的祖父曾經對我說：

『牽著我的手，我會陪你一起走。』

那麼，我也會變得瘋狂。

但是他說：

『走在我的前面。你是我的未來。』

我學到了：

我的影響力是在未來……無論我做什麼，絕對不要忘記遵循程序。人來人往。制度長存。如果你能夠記住我的一句話，你就永遠不會失敗。

建立一個制度。以三種方式組織它：

行動（Action）、保障（Cover）與支持（Support）。生命就會變得便利……」

讓孩子像聖者一樣坐著

身為錫克的領袖，Siri Singh Sahib Harbhajan Singh Khalsa Yogiji（Yogi Bhajan，瑜伽士巴贊）於 1992 年 5 月 29 日發布了一項指示。

他指出，在每一場正式、完整的謁師所（Gurdwara）儀式中，Sadh Sangat（會眾）的孩子們都應該演唱一首錫克正道（Sikh Dharma）的歌曲。

這首歌曲應安排在《Song of the Khalsa》、《Anand Sahib》（傳統結束聖歌）以及《Ardas》（祈禱文）之前演唱。

1992 年 8 月 2 日，在新墨西哥州，他談到了這項訓練對孩子們的重要性：

他說，孩子們應該走上舞台，站在舞台上。

這是屬於他們的時刻。

他們應該：「像聖者一樣坐著，這是第一課。」

如果我們容許孩子因害羞而不敢走上舞台，也不訓練他們去「主持人生」（M.C. Life），他們將會遭受非常嚴重的痛苦。讓我們消除孩子們的舞台恐懼。舞台上的戲劇，存在於整個世界之中。你每天都要面對創傷。那些害怕走上舞台、面對所有人的人，永遠無法成為領導者。試著去理解。一位領導者必須是一位優秀的主持人（M.C.），並且必須具有良好的影響力。而接下來，他的引導必須是完美的，就如同神的無限性（Infinity of God）一樣。這是我們可以給予孩子的三種價值，而我們將因此免除未來許多的麻煩。給予你的孩子舞台。給予他們特質。給予他們面對挑戰的品格。並給予他們自身最好的部分，使他們能夠提升。如果你能夠與孩子分享這些，你就能讓你的孩子比你優秀十倍……

三種價值（Three Values）

你必須給予他們三種基本的東西：

給予他們靈性的價值觀（Spiritual Values）。

給予他們社會的價值觀（Social Values）。

給予他們倫理的價值觀（Ethical Values）。

給予他們所有你能夠給予的價值觀。

但是，還要給予他們一件事：

帶著愛與關懷，和他們一起練習。

UFOs（不明飛行物）

不要把他們當作外星人或其他異類來對待。他們就是你自己家中的 UFO。如果你真的想知道，這幾個夏天我與青少年相處之後，所得到的觀察，那就是：

他們沒有父母。這是我的研究結果。我可以誠實地說，就在這裡，我們的孩子是我所見過最像孤兒的孩子。我簡直無法相信。他們就像一件家具。你想清潔他們的時候，就清潔他們。你想擦亮他們的時候，就擦亮他們。你想把他們放在哪裡，就把他們放在哪裡。你想在什麼地方使用他們，就在什麼地方使用他們。你想如何為他們定價，就如何定價。你想怎麼談論他們，就怎麼談論他們。你忘記了，他們是活生生的、有機的生命個體。他們是由神完全設計、創造出來的人類，並在祂明確的旨意之下，被交託給你們。而我不知道祂為什麼做出這樣的選擇，但祂就是這樣選擇了。而他們現在與你們在一起。你們從來沒有在商店裡買過任何一個孩子。而且，他們不是小狗。他們是完美的、非常令人愉快的人。他們需要受到尊重。他們需要受到優雅的對待。他們需要受到崇敬的對待。忘了我吧。當你連自己的孩子都不崇敬時，你又怎麼能夠給予我崇敬呢？……我希望這個兒童課程能夠持續下去。我們將把自己最好的部分投入其中。

並使它成為我們生命中最成功的時刻。

Training Our Children

Selected Quotes from the Siri Singh Sahib

Sit like saints, that's the first lesson..

July 1, 1992

"..Mother is the creative energy.

She must challenge the child, on right and on wrong, both. That's the tragedy, no mother does it. Mother has to challenge the child on right and wrong: "If you are right, why are you right?" If you are wrong, why are you wrong?" And father has to give the alternative. "If you are right, how much right can you be? And how can you avoid the wrong? If you are wrong, how can you get rid of it and be right?" If father doesn't do it, he kills the child. If mother doesn't do it, she totally lemons him. No human being is wrong born. It is the fault of the parents. Child is just a by-product of that fault and default."

July 2, 1992

"..If we let our children be, and give them the basic spiritual values, deal with their spirit and uplift and keep it and give them faith; that is the only positive thing they have. None of our children will fall apart. I mean, you feed your children a lot of ice-cream and then you think he or she is not going to have pimples? I don't know where you learned that. You give them all the emotional raps and you just lean on them. The worst thing in a child's life is when either of the parents or both lean on him. The child thinks the whole world is in the palm of his hand. He starts seeking that all his life; he never gets it. He is miserable the rest of his life. We do it from the very first day. That's why I say, if my grandfather had said to me,

"Hold my hand, I'll walk with you", I would have been nuts, too. But he said, "Walk in front of me. You are my future." I learned: my impact is in the future...Doesn't matter what I do, never fail to follow the procedure. Men come and men go. System lives. If you can remember my one word, you will never fail. Create a system. Organize it in three ways: action, cover and sup-port. Life will be convenient..."

As head of the Sikh religion, the sirl singh Sahib, Harbhajan Singh Khalsa Yogiji (Yogi Bhajan) issued a Directive on May 29, 1992 stating that at each formal, full length Gurdwara Program, the children of the Sadh Sangat (congregation) shall sing a Sikh Dharma song, which shall be presented before the Song of the Khalsa,

Anand Sahib (traditional closing hymn) and Ardas(prayer).August 2, 1992 in New Mexico, he spoke about the importance of this training for the children:

He said that the children are supposed to come and be on the stage. It is their time.

They are to "Sit like saints, that's the first lesson." If we let our children be shy of coming on the stage and do not train them to "M.C. life" they will suffer very badly. Let us take stage fright away from children. The drama of the stage is on the whole world. You face trauma every day.

Those who are shy of coming on the stage and facing everyone can never be leaders. Try to understand. A leader has to be a good M.C., and has to have a good impact. And then the guidance has to be perfect, like Infinity of God.

These are three values we can give our children, and we'll save lots of trouble in tomorrow. Give your children the stage, give them the characteristics, and give them the character to confront. And give them the best of them, so they can elevate. If you can share this with your children you can have your children ten times better than you are... Three Values

Three elementary things you have to give them: Give them the spiritual values; give them the social values; give them the ethical values. Give them all the values you can give. But give them one thing. With love and affection, practice with them.

UFO'S

Don't treat them as aliens and other subjects.

They are UFO's in your own home. If you really want to know my reading of these few summers I have been with the teenagers, they don't have parents. It's my study. With honesty I can say, right sitting here, our children are the most orphaned children I have ever seen. I can't believe it. They are just like a piece of furniture. You clean them when you want. You polish them when you want. You put them where you want. You use them where you want.

You price them as you want. You talk about them as you want. You forget they are alive, organic human beings, absolutely designed, made by God, given to you under His explicit subject. And I don't know why He chose that, but He chose so. And they are with you. You have not yet bought any child in the store. And they are not puppies. They are perfect, very pleasant people. They need to be treated with respect. They need to be treated with elegance, and they need to be treated with reverence.

Forget about me, how can you give me reverence when you are not reverent to your children?...I hope this children's program will continue, and we'll put our best into it, and we'll make it the most successful moment of our lives.

本文選自 Still Keeping Up

November, 1992

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女人與兒童優先！（Women and Children First!）

 

女人與兒童優先！

Women and Children First!

MSS Shakti Parwha Kaur Khalsa 的個人筆記

「女人與兒童優先」是當船隻即將沉沒時，安排人們登上救生艇的標準程序。

女人真的有那麼大的價值嗎？這是相當顯而易見的；沒有女人，文明就會走向終結，沒有人能夠出生。沒有任何人！

沒有女人與兒童，人類就沒有未來。

當瑜伽士巴贊（Yogi Bhajan）抵達美國時，他看見我們的社會正被拉向一條必然自我毀滅的道路。他看見這艘船即將沉沒。他立即開始為女性授課，並教導有關女性的知識。他始終如一地投入大量的時間與精力來教導女性，因為正如他不斷提醒我們的：

「任何不尊重女性的社會，都注定要走向毀滅！」

而第一步，就是女性必須重新找回並重新取回自己身為女性的尊嚴、神性與優雅。

瑜伽士們知道，女性所擁有的情緒力量與影響力，是男性的十六倍。問題在於，她如何引導自己的能量？是用來提升與啟發，還是用來削弱與摧毀？

瑜伽士（Yogiji）給了我們一個關於女性的定義：

「Double-you o man」

並讓我們理解，身為女性所擁有的力量與潛能。

當我們理解並掌握身為女性的自己時，我們就能運用自己的力量，為這個星球帶來和平與自由。我們或許曾經剝奪了自己的權利 — 即使我們已經贏得了投票權；我們或許曾經允許男性在過去剝削我們。但是，3HO 的生活方式與昆達里尼瑜伽（Kundalini Yoga）的技術，正在喚醒內在的女神。這並不是為了與男性競爭，而是當我們將自己提升到應有的地位時，也同時提升、啟發並使男性變得高尚。畢竟，女性就是 Adi Shakti（原初夏克緹），原初力量（Primal Power）— 神顯化出來的力量。

在過去的二十三年裡，我們的 3HO 家庭不斷成長，因為那些美麗的寶瓶時代靈魂，被吸引而誕生於 3HO 家庭之中。這些靈魂的命運，就是在新時代中生活、工作，並引領人類。這些靈魂前來尋求一個靈性的環境，以滋養並支持他們的命運。瑜伽士巴贊更進一步伸出他那充滿仁慈的大師之手，將教導擴展到這些孩子身上，傳授他們所需要的進階技術，使他們能夠完成自己的命運，並克服前幾代人的神經官能症（Neuroses）。

他在新墨西哥州為青少年開設的非凡課程、他傑出的演講，以及他在今年夏天為女性所教授的新型冥想，聽起來令人著迷，實際練習則令人獲得解放！

這一期的《Still Keeping Up!》收錄了 1992 年 KWTC 錄音帶中所蘊含的豐富資訊與啟發的一小部分摘錄。我希望你們能夠親自取得這些錄音帶。

（或許你們可以成立一個借閱圖書館，或者在你們的瑜伽中心或家中，利用這些錄影帶開設課程。）

男性們，請不要覺得自己被排除在外。這些知識同樣會使你們受益。雖然其中有些內容是「專門」為女性而設，但有很大一部分同樣適用於男性。而且，盡可能多地了解女性，對你們而言是明智的，因為：

「身為一個男人，你由女人所生。當你長大時，你想要一個女人。最終，你與一個女人結婚，並生下孩子。你從 A 到 Z 的整個生命結構，都是圍繞著女人，一圈又一圈地運轉。你想為了一個女人而富有。你想為了一個女人而貧窮。你想為了一個女人而搬到鄉下。你想為了一個女人而來到城市。無論你承認還是否認，基本上，你都以某種方式，成為女人的僕人。」

—摘自《The Teachings of Yogi Bhajan》，第 29 頁。

Women and Children First!

A personal note from

MSS Shakti Parwha Kaur Khalsa

"Women and children first" is standard procedure for loading lifeboats when the ship is going to sink. Are women really that valuable? It's pretty obvious; without women, civilization comes to an end, nobody gets born. Nobody! Without women and children, there's no future for the human race.

When Yogi Bhajan arrived in America, he saw our society being pulled on a sure course of self-destruction. He saw the ship about to sink. He began immediately teaching for and about women. He has consistently focused a tremendous amount of time and energy into teaching women because, as he has reminded us, "Any society in which woman is not respected is doomed!". And the first step is for women to regain and reclaim their own dignity, divinity and grace as Women. Yogis know that women have sixteen times more emotional power and impact than men. The question is how she channels her energy; is it to uplift and inspire, or to undermine and destroy?

Yogiji gave us a definition of woman:

"Double-you o man", and the understanding of our power and potential as women.

As we understand and master ourselves as women, we can use our power to bring peace and freedom to the planet. We may have disenfranchised ourselves — even though we won the vote; we may have allowed men to exploit us in the past, but the 3HO way of life and technology with Kundalini Yoga is awakening the goddess within, not to compete with men, but to uplift, inspire and ennoble them as we elevate ourselves to our rightful status. Woman is, after all, the Adi Shakti, the Primal Power (God's Power in manifestation).

During the past 23 years, our 3HО families have grown as beautiful Aquarian souls, whose destiny it is to live and work and lead humanity in the new age, have been attracted to birth to 3HO.

These souls came seeking a spiritual environment to nurture and support their destiny. Yogi Bhajan has further extended his masterful hand of kindness to include teaching the advanced technology these children need to fulfill their destiny and overcome the neuroses of previous generations.

His remarkable classes for the teenagers in New Mexico, his outstanding lectures and the new kinds of meditations for women he taught this summer are fascinating to hear and liberating to practice!

This issue of Still Keeping Up! features excerpts from just a fraction of the wealth of information and inspiration that came from the tapes made at KWTC, 1992. I hope you'll get them for yourself (maybe you can start a lending library or hold classes in your Yoga center or home, using the video tapes).

Men, please don't feel left out. This knowledge will benefit you also. Although some of it is "exclusively" for women, much of it is equally applicable for men and you are wise to learn as much about women as you can, for:

"As a man, you are born of a woman. When you grow, you want a woman. Eventually you marry with a woman and have children. Your A-to-Z structure is around and around a woman. You want to be rich for a woman, you want to be poor for a woman, you want to move to the country for a woman, you want to come to the city for a woman.

Whether you admit it or deny it, basically you are a slave of woman in one way or another." (From The Teachings of Yogi Bhajan, page 29.)

本文選自 Still Keeping Up

November, 1992

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智慧與假我不會同行一冥想

 

冥想（Meditation）

這個冥想是配合「智慧與假我不會同行」的演講所傳授的。

以簡易坐姿（Easy Pose）坐好，脊椎挺直。手肘向外張開。雙手保持在眼睛的高度。

將木星指（Jupiter Fingers，食指）的指尖相互接觸，並將兩個拇指的指腹相互接觸，使雙手之間形成一個菱形的孔洞。

讓土星指（Saturn Fingers，中指）的指關節彼此接觸。其他手指自然彎曲、放鬆。

保持這個姿勢，使土星指的指關節位於眼睛的高度，並透過手印（Mudra）向外觀看，將雙眼的焦點放在遠方，使一個由肉體形成的菱形三角形，看起來像是被夾在兩個土星指的指關節之間。

冥想這個形狀，並深呼吸。

讓自己平靜下來，盡可能充分地呼吸，使你能夠擁有那種看見不可見之物的能量。

這是一個開始。這是寶瓶時代（Age of Aquarius）的開始。穿透傲慢與無知的牆壁，看見其後的一切。

靜默冥想 15 分鐘，然後聆聽〈Every Life is a Living God to Me〉 的錄音帶，再持續 16 分鐘。接著：

深深吸氣。

將雙手放到額頭兩側，並以手掌完全覆蓋你的臉。

強而有力地吐氣。再次吸氣，完整而充分地吸氣，不要只吸到一半。現在，用雙手完全捧住你的臉，感受雙手觸碰整張臉。這是一件與能量有關的事—並不是要你用雙手遮住臉，以避開光線。吐氣。

再次吸氣—深、深、深地吸氣。屏住呼吸（HOLD TIGHT）：

下巴內收，胸部向外挺出。拉展你的胸廓。拉展你的下段脊椎。中段、上段，一直延伸到你的臉，並用雙手與你的臉相互對抗。用手掌用力按壓，同時用你的臉向手掌反向施壓。吐氣。放鬆。

立即甩動你的雙手，伸直雙腿，不要繼續坐著冥想。現在正是該活躍起來、四處活動的時候。現在正是該搖動你的身體的時候，這樣你就不再是原來的自己。跳起來，像青蛙一樣跳。動起來，動起來！找點樂趣。不要那麼嚴肅。鳥兒已經飛走，籠子已經空了。

〈Every Life is a Living God to Me〉（每一個生命對我而言都是一位活生生的上帝）

演唱：Nirinjan Kaur 音樂：Guru Prem Singh 歌詞：Yogi Bhajan

「Excuses are self abuses.」

「藉口就是對自己的虐待。」

Meditation

This meditation was given with the lecture on p. 2

Sit in Easy Pose with a straight spine. Elbows out. Hands at eye level.

Place the tips of the Jupiter (index) fingers together and the balls of the thumbs together to form a diamond shaped hole between the hands. Let the Saturn (middle) finger knuckles touch each other. Other fingers are curled, relaxed. Hold the position so that the Saturn finger knuckles are at eye level and look through the mudra, focusing the eyes at the distance so that a triangle of diamond shaped flesh appears to be held between the Saturn finger knuckles. Meditate on that shape and breathe deeply. Calm down, breathe maximum so you can have that energy of seeing the unseen.

It's a beginning. It's a beginning of the Age of Aquarius. See through the walls of arrogance and ignorance.

Meditate silently for 15 minutes, then listen to the tape of "Every Life is a Living God to Me"* for another 16 minutes then:

Inhale deeply. Take both hands and touch your forehead on both sides, completely cover your face with your palms. Exhale powerfully. Breathe in again, complete and full, not half way.

Now hold your face completely with your hands and feel your hands touching the entire face. It is an energy thing — not that you are covering your face from the light. Exhale. Inhale again — deep, deep,

deep, HOLL

TIGHT: Chin in Chest out. Stretch your ribcage. Stretch your lower spine.

Middle, top and all the way to your face and fight your face with your hands. Press hard with palms and press back with your face. Exhale. Relax.

Immediately shake off your hands, stretch up your legs and don't sit and meditate. Now is this is a time to be jumpy and move around. Now is the time to shake your body so you may not be what you were. Jump up, play frog. Move, move! Have a little fun.

Don't be so serious. Bird is flown, cage is empty."

*Sung by Nirinjan Kaur, music by Guru Prem Singh, words by Yogi Bhajan.

"Excuses are self abuses"

本文選自 Still Keeping Up

November, 1992

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