什麼是覺知的溝通？（ What is Conscious Communication? ）

 

Yogi Bhajan，摘自 KRI 2 級：覺知溝通手冊

什麼是瑜珈士的覺知溝通呢？

你知道什麼是真正的溝通嗎？真正的交流是在講出、說出或交流之後，你百分百地全然可以支持你所說的一切。無論如何，真正的交流，並不賦予您事後任意更改它的權利。任何不真實的東西都是謊言。這不是對或錯、好或壞，或道德和倫理的問題。 A 與 B 交談，若 A 和 B 之間的談話是真實的，這樣 A 和 B 他們的整體就會連根在一起，一直通到無限。

你不應該說任何話，是那種你把你的整體性拋在腦後的話。你的總價值在於，無論你說的是什麼，你都可以從頭到尾堅持不變下去的。當你不遵守你所說的，你就沒有價值，你的裝飾、你的珠寶、你的性和你的人就沒有價值。真正的溝通是一個人類的才能，無論你說什麼，你都能為你說的堅持下去。

為什麼要說話呢？

溝通這件事被全人類誤解了。當你生氣、當你情緒化、當你受傷、當你沒有安全感、當你陷入小我之旅時，你會覺得你必須開始說話了，這就是被你搞砸的地方。記住，當你說話時，是為了未來。它不是為了過去，也絕不是為了現在。溝通是建造未來天堂的藝術，不會溝通的人，無論屬於哪個宗教、國家或民族，都沒有未來。

溝通不是為了情緒和感受。也不是因為天氣。溝通是一門藝術，通過它你可以清理生活中的不要垃圾。大多數情況下，你說話是為了擺脫憤怒、擺脫沮喪、擺脫自卑/優越感情結。這三件事讓你說話。大多數人說話是因為自卑或優越感情結。減去這些，你根本就不喜歡談論什麼。你說話常是為了獲得一種感覺，因為想讓自己獨特，而打下小我的標籤。

你所感受到的，可能是也可能不是真實的，但是你認為你所感受到的就是真實的；其它不是你感受到的都是胡扯。你感受到的，是情勢、環境、你的背景、你的壓力、你的神經質、你的投射、你的基本思想、你所投射性的想法、你的想像力、你的夢、你的編篡人格，和你投射出來的人格的輸出結果。所有這些都為你創造了你所感受到的想法。問題是那是你的感覺，我這邊感覺不到。所以有了對抗，就會有矛盾衝突。

你必須與自己的靈魂溝通。你必須與你自己的心智溝通。你必須與你自己溝通。你的靈魂、你的心智和你的自我，使你成為一種身份、一種心理特質。你總是花很長的時間，來傳達你的真實感受和你真正要說的話。所以你所做的，就是老創造兩個分開的疆域— 你說了什麼，以及你感受到什麼。你不與自己溝通就會造成巨大的壓力。因此，試著在你和你自己之間建立一種關係吧。

當你不覺知地說話時，你就代表了你的情緒、你的感受、你的神經質、你的障礙、你的缺陷和你的不安全感。當你直接用潛意識說話時，你就是一個騙局裡的人，你是一個小偷，你是一個作弊者，你在操縱，你是不誠實的。你想要的，只是贏得當下局面或留下深刻印象。這樣的人永遠不會忠於大局；他們在生活中從來都不是真實的。當你有意識地說話時，你所說的未來就會發生。當你從你高我的超意識說話時，它就成為宇宙的引導線。然後阿卡西記錄必須以那個角度來移動。

不要陷入負面

通常，當你們彼此交談時，你們會心煩意亂、發怒、精神上生病並放棄自己的真實身份。你說了傷害別人的話。請記住，一個錯誤的詞會永遠存在於地球和天堂。你無法擺脫它。所以說話不只是為了表達；說話不僅僅是一種交流。它是一種工具，它是一種永遠會割傷嘴唇的武器。

溝通的藝術很簡單，它必須流經於你自己。在交流中既不做出反彈反應，也不以負面來行動。這是非常危險的。沒有其它解決的辦法。反彈和負面會帶走你所有的功德。它會讓你空虛、膚淺、痛苦。這就是負面經文（ 如同經文是負面ㄧ樣） 的力量。因此，在任何情況下都不需要使用負面語言，也不要以令人反感的方式進行交流。你也不應該用一種只是奉承的方式說話。說話既不太超過，也不太卑微。說話要正直，因為兩條線之間，直接的路線是最短的。

說話、溝通、講演、寫作都很好。但是當逆境來臨時，溝通往往就會中斷。無論是與敵人還是朋友，永遠不要中斷溝通。去持續保持溝通吧。這就是神所做的。溝通只是振動、持續保持振動。保持正面、永遠不要去聽取負面的話。

一個有意識的人說話時，帶著絕對的尊貴和絕對的信念。永遠、永遠不要在不知不覺中，說出反對任何人類形式的話，因為那是對神聖的誹謗，是對神製造的東西的誹謗。

建立互惠關係

在各行各業、在生活的方方面面，和諧的溝通可以轉敗為勝。它可以賦予你威信，可以擴展你的個性，讓人們信任你，它可以給你觸及另一個人內心深處的力量。它還可以讓你對我們生活的世界感到舒心。

和諧的溝通與你的感受無關、與你現在知道的無關、與你想要的無關。為了實現和諧和覺知的溝通，首先你必須瞭解對方。然後，無論你對對方有什麼瞭解，以及你想與對方交流的任何知識，都必須以一種非常有愛的方式呈現，而不是有任何冒犯他人的意圖或手段。

每當你為了控製、或只是為了講話、或介紹你的動機、或搞一個規則，或者你想成為你想成為的人時，你都是在浪費你的溝通能量。人們想談話，但他們不想談雙方都不感興趣的事情。他們不想談論那些不能帶來互相信任，或者沒有互惠互利的事情。

知道如何溝通的人要麼是聖人，要麽是那些對他人懷有善意的人，因為他們說話時帶著慈悲心。否則你只會帶著自我激情說話。如果您充滿激情地交談，那麼您就是在努力表達自己的觀點，你不在乎別人的觀點是地獄還是天堂。通常當你說話的時候，你想說話只是為了贏，它就被稱為 「 言語征服」。大多數人不會通過交談來建立關係。如果你通過談話來建立關係，那麼你必須時刻關注對方的感受，他們在做什麼，他們現在在哪兒了。

可以通過三種方式與某人交談。一種是創造對話空間，一種是開啟談話，一種就只是去說。就只是去說這件事，是痛苦的，就像征服者和被征服者的交流。開啟談話是可以理解的。創造對話空間則是美麗的，是可取的。很少有人可以創造對話空間或深度交流，讓兩個人以相同的頻率，在同一時刻、以同樣的熱情、同樣的同情心、同樣的個性化和真實身份交談。和諧的交流發生在才智和覺知意識領域之間合一的地方，也就是心與腦相遇的地方。

溝通是一門科學，也是一門藝術。如果歸結為這一點，那麼就在說話與回答之間。但通常兩個人應該通過他們的臨在來交流。當臨在不起作用時，溝通是帶來和平的最後手段。靈性屬於那些了解 anaadee naad（未知音流）科學的人。如果一個人說的語言實際上是有效正面的，那麼就算只完善了一兩個詞語，都足以進行充足有效的交流。

小指技巧來度過一天

如果你不知道如何溝通困擾你的事情，您就必須去開會討論。在桌子旁坐下，按下這個手指。 （拇指的指腹壓在小指的指甲上。）在桌子下面；沒有人會看到。只需按下您的小指約一分鐘。然後觸摸它。 （拇指尖接觸小指尖。）你的整個交流感都將聽從你的指揮。你不必接受開光，你不必歸屬於任何人，你會度過美好的一天。當你的小我（ego）拇指，壓在水星手指上時，它只是在告訴馬：「 讓我們馳騁吧。」這完全是一種生理的情況。你的交流沒有理由不成功。

*在「 寶瓶教師」中分享：覺知溝通。 KRI 昆達里尼瑜伽國際教師培訓，由 Yogi Bhajan 教授。 2級：轉換練習者。昆達里尼瑜伽研究所。 2006.

**照片由 Karta Purkh Singh 提供

本文摘自 StudentsofYogiBhajan

明月心滴翻譯 / 歡迎覺知轉載

What is Conscious Communication?

What is Conscious Communication for a Yogi?

Do you know what real communication is? Real communication is when after uttering, saying, or communicating, you stand fully one hundred percent by whatever you said. Real communication does not give you any right to change it afterwards, no matter what. Anything which is not real is a lie. It is not whether it is right or wrong, good or bad, or moral or ethical. Person A talks to person B and between A and B, the talk is real. Then A and B are bound down to put their totality in it until infinity.

You should not say anything that you cannot put your totality behind. The total value of you is that whatever you say, you stick with it. When you don’t stick with what you say, you have no value, and your decoration and your jewelry and your sex and your person have no value. Real communication is the faculty of a human that whatever you say, you stick with it.

Why Talk?

Communication is very misunderstood by all human beings. When you are angry, when you are emotional, when you are hurt, when you are insecure, and when you are in your ego trip, you feel like you have to talk, and that is where you mess up. Remember, when you talk, it is for the future. lt is not for the past and it is never for the present. Communication is the art to build heavens in the future and people who do not have it, do not have any future, no matter what religion or country or nation they belong to.

Communication is not for emotions and feelings. Not for the weather, either. Communication is an art through which you can clean the garbage in your life. Mostly you talk to get rid of anger, get rid of frustration, and get rid of inferiority/superiority complex. These three things make you talk. Mostly people talk because of the inferiority-superiority complex. Minus these things you don’t like to talk at all. You talk to get a feeling, because of curiosity, and to lay the ego number.

What you feel may or may not be reality, but you think that whatever you feel is reality; everything else is nonsense. What you feel is the outcome of circumstances, environments, your background, your pressures, your neurosis, your projection, your elementary thoughts, your projective thoughts, your imagination, your dreams, your compiled personality and your projected personality. All these things create for you an idea that you feel. The problem is that what you feel, I don’t feel. So there is a confrontation, a conflict.

You must communicate with your own soul. You must communicate with your own mind. And you must communicate with your own self. Your soul, your mind, and your self make you an identity, a psyche. You take a very long time to communicate what you really feel and what you are really saying. So what you do is create two domains—what you are saying and what you are feeling. There is a tremendous amount of stress which you cause by not communicating with yourself. Therefore, try to establish a relationship between you and your self.

When you speak unconsciously, you represent your emotions, your feelings, your neuroses, your handicaps, your shortcomings, and your insecurities. When you speak subconsciously, you are a con-person, you are a thief, you are a cheat, you manipulate, you are dishonest. All you want is to win the moment or impress the moment. Such people are never true to a bigger picture; they are never real in their lives. When you speak consciously, that which you speak about happens. When you speak super-consciously from the supreme self of you, that becomes the guiding line for the Universe. Then the akashic record has to move with that angle.

No Negativity

Generally when you talk to one another you get upset, you get mad, you get sick mentally and abandon your own real identity. You say things to hurt others. Remember, one wrong word said lives forever, on the Earth and in the heavens. There’s no way you can get out of it. So speaking is not just for expression; speaking is not just a communication. It is a tool, it is a weapon which cuts the lip forever.

The art of communication is simple and it must flow from you. Neither react nor act negatively in communication. It is very dangerous. There’s no solution to it. It will take away all your merits. It will leave you hollow, shallow, in pain. That is the power of the negative bani. Therefore, under no circumstances are you required to speak negative language, and you must not communicate in a way which will be offensive. Neither should you speak in a way which should be just buttering. Speaking should be neither overdoing nor under-doing nor super-positive nor super-negative. Speaking should be straight because between two lines, the direct route is the shortest.

Talking, communicating, speaking, writing is all good. But when adversity hits, communication will break. Never break the communication, neither with an enemy nor with a friend. Keep communicating. That’s what God does. Communication is just vibration. Keep vibrating. But be positive. Never listen to negativity.

A conscious person talks with absolute dignity and absolute faith. Never ever, never ever say things against any human form even unconsciously, because that is a slander of the divine, against what God manufactured.

Establish Mutuality

In every walk of life, in every aspect of life, harmonious communication can bring success out of failure. It can give you authority, it can expand your personality, it makes people trust you, it can give you the power to touch the very depth of another person. It can also make you feel comfortable with the world we live in.

Harmonious communication has nothing to do with what you feel, what you know, and what you want. In order to achieve harmonious and conscious communication, first you have to understand the other person. Then whatever knowledge you have about the other person and whatever knowledge you want to communicate with the other person has to be presented in a very loving manner and not with any intent or means to figure out any offensiveness.

Whenever you communicate to control or talk or introduce your motive or your legislation, or you want to be what you want to be, you are wasting your communication energy. People want to talk, but they don’t want to talk about that which is not of mutual interest to both parties. They don’t want to talk about that which does not bring mutual trust, or is not of mutual benefit.

People who are aware of how to communicate are either saints or they are those who have good in their hearts for others because they talk with compassion. Otherwise you talk only with a passion. If you talk with a passion, you are trying to make a point. You don’t care hell or heaven what the other person’s point may be. Normally when you talk, you want to talk to win. It is called “talk to conquer.” Most people do not talk to establish a relationship. If you talk to establish a relationship, then you have to always have the concentration of how the other man or woman feels, what they are doing, where they are at.

There are three ways to speak to someone. One is to create dialogue, one is to speak, and one is to talk. Talking is painful, like the conqueror and conquered communicating. Speaking is just understandable. Dialogue is beautiful and is desirable. Very few people can create dialogue, or intercourse, where two people talk in the same frequency, at the same moment, with the same passion, same compassion, same individuality and identity. Harmonious communication happens where there is oneness between the spheres of intelligence and consciousness, where hearts and heads meet.

Communication is a science and an art. Speak and answer if it boils down to that. But normally two people should just communicate by their presence. When presence doesn’t work, communication is a last resort to bring peace. Spirituality belongs to those who understand the science of anaadee naad, unknown sound. If a person speaks a language which is effectively positive and has perfected one or two words only, that is enough for effective communication.

Pinkie Finger Technique to Carry the Day

If you do not know how to communicate something that is bothering you, and you have to go to a meeting to talk. Sit down at a table and press this finger. (The pad of the thumb presses down on the nail of the pinkie finger.) Underneath the table; nobody will ever see. Just press your little finger for about a minute. And then touch it. (The tip of the thumb touches the tip of the baby finger.) Your entire sense of communication shall come on your command. You don’t have to have an initiation, you don’t have to belong to anybody, and you will carry the day. When your ego finger will press on the mercury finger, it is just telling the horse, “Let us gallop.” It is a totally physiological situation. There’s no reason that your communication should not carry the day.

 

*As shared in The Aquarian Teacher: Conscious Communication. KRI International Teacher Training in Kundalini Yoga as taught by Yogi Bhajan. Level 2 Transformation Practitioner. Kundalini Research Institute. 2006.

**Photo courtesy of Karta Purkh Singh